I got married before I was 30 and we started trying to have a child. Unfortunately, the time was going by and I didn’t get pregnant. I never had major health problems, maybe irregular menstruations from time to time, but until then all gynaecologists said that I could be a mother without any problems. I began to worry when two years passed and nothing changed.
We had sex frequently, led a healthy lifestyle, spent time outdoors, and were careful about our diet. Finally I talked my husband into checking what was wrong. At the clinic we had to carry out quite a number of tests and answer numerous detailed questions. Fortunately the doctor who talked with us was very sympathetic. We got along well from the beginning although at first my beloved was quite reserved about “the therapy”. After the visit we decided to seek the genetics specialist’s advice as well.
I knew that my brother’s defect could mean that I had some inherited genetic burden. The specialist confirmed that but he also reassured us. Nevertheless, we still had doubts, especially that we couldn’t conceive with natural methods. The test results didn’t bring any new information. The diagnosis said: idiopathic infertility, meaning that its background is unknown.
We decided to wait a few more months, and if patience is not enough for a miracle to happen, to put ourselves into the hands of doctors. By the end of the year we decided to make an attempt at in vitro. I learnt at Internet fora that the risk of the Down syndrome can be limited in the course of such treatment.
In the clinic we were offered No Genetic Risk IVF Programme – our embryos were to be tested for genetic burden occurring in my family. I think that it was a very good decision and I am grateful for the doctors’ help. It appeared that from four embryos which were developing properly, two were sick. I don’t know whether it is a lot or little, but when I look at our twins, how they develop, laugh, play, I am so happy that they are healthy.
I met with various opinions about both in vitro and the diagnostic test we conducted, and I have one answer to them. No one understands what an infertile person feels unless he or she has experienced it… I have never regretted, even for a single moment, that we underwent the treatment; neither have I a single thought that I did the wrong thing. On the contrary – I feel with all my being that it was worth doing.
